Books, Church Planting Resources

5 Dysfunctions of a Team


Book 3 of 5o in my quest to read 50 books in 52 weeks. (2013)

Whether you are a church planter (pre-launch), pastor, small group leader, business owner, or husband and wife; everyone can gain insight from this great book.

As a pastor and church leader it’s important to realize how teams function and often enough fail to function.
I’ve been in those meetings where everything seemed to be okay but there was this undertow throughout that just screamed “This isn’t working.” Ever been there?

Patrick Lencioni does a masterful job with his unique approach to leadership training. He tells a fable all the while weaving in powerful insights and leadership ideas.

You’ll find yourself right in the middle of his boardroom meetings cheering on the CEO, disagreeing with the direct reports, and maybe even identifying with a few of the personality flaws found in this dysfunctional team.

This is one book I found myself finishing only to turn back to page one and starting over again.


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Church Planting Resources

CP Resources: Church Metrics


As a church planter of a new church, it is huge to have a very accurate idea of exactly how your young church is doing. Just think about it. You wouldn’t check in on your newborn baby every month or so to make sure it was okay. Yeah right! You would be giving that baby your constant time and attention. It’s the same way with the church. It’s important to know exactly what’s happening on a weekly basis.

Enter Church Metrics.

Built by a church for churches. is a new, free web app that gives you the ability to track trends within your church. Using dynamic charts, comparative reports and educated projections, it’s never been easier to keep tabs on attendance and giving patterns in your church.

Not only that but you can also keep up with anything you think is worthy such as connection cards, kids attendance, volunteer participation, etc.

Here’s another blog post for further reading. click here.

Here is another link to various videos on Vimeo to get you started.

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Happy Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentines Day

Some of us look forward to this day with great excitement. Others of us not so much. No matter where you find yourself never forget you are loved, cherished, and honored by all of us at RLC and, most importantly, by our great God. We sincerely hope you have a great day.


1 Corinthians 13

If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! 10 But when the time of perfection comes, these partial things will become useless.

11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 12 Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.

13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.


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A Letter to RLC

A Letter to RLC>>>

Hello Real Life Church!!!
It was so great to see everyone this past weekend and I hope your week is off to a great start. There are two main things I wanted to cover with you today.



1. Huge SHOUT OUT to all the Dream Team peeps who were out in FORCE this past weekend! It was awesome to see people plugging into the church, using their gifts, and being excited about what God is doing at RLC. You guys are awesome and such a blessing to my family. Seeing your excitement, love, and commitment to RLC really brings joy into our lives. You’re the BEST.

2. It was so exciting to see all the new faces too. We are in the process of sending out all the first time attender letters but I can’t wait to go ahead and say thank you for being a part of our history making day. It was great.

3. One more HUGE SHOUT OUT to everyone who went the extra mile to invite so many of your friends and family. As we say all the time, found people find people. That simply means that once you’ve found Christ in your life you can’t help but want to share that with someone else. Way to go!



1. With the new Worship Experience Times comes new opportunities to not just GO to church but to BE the church. To plug into the power of God by plugging into the local church which I truly believe is the hope of the world. We are the hands and feet of Jesus.
There were several people who made the statement this past weekend that while they have attended RLC for a while, last Sunday was the first time they truly felt like a part of the church. The best place to really feel like your part of the RLC family is to serve with us. It’s so much fun. For more info about how you can use your gifts to do amazing things, send us an email here or let one of the RLC greeters know this Sunday.

2. The new worship experience times also affords you the ability to invite your friends like never before. We now have more room to serve them.

3. One of the big emphasis point for RLC this year is LIFEGROUPS. No one was meant to do life alone. You need to be a part of a life group. It really is awesome and life groups are forming with the main thought of being more convenient. Check out the Real Life Church website for info about life groups.

That’s all for now. There’s such an excitement in the air. God is truly moving RLC forward and now is the time to get on board. It’s going to be amazing to look back a year from now and say we were there when things took off. It’s amazing to be a part of church where God is honored, relationships are priority, and people are connected to Christ.

I love my church.

See you guys this week at a Life Group, AWANA, or this Sunday.

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Why Life Groups? They Help Grow My Relationships


They help me grow my relationships.

Hebrews 6:1-3 NLT

So let us stop going over the basic teachings about Christ again and again. Let us go on instead and become mature in our understanding. Surely we don’t need to start again with the fundamental importance of repenting from evil deeds and placing our faith in God. You don’t need further instruction about baptisms, the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment. And so, God willing, we will move forward to further understanding.

1. Grow my relationships with others. Life is so much better together. Psalms says, “Oh how good and how pleasant it is when brothers dwell together in unity.” However most of us don’t experience a lot of unity. When we get to know each other and build relationships we slowly earn ‘buy-in’ into each others lives. Our opinions carry more weight because we have time invested. We slowly build trust. These are the people who can truly become life-changers. They can speak into our lives with weight and clarity because we’ve both taken the time to get to know each other and understand our complex life situations.

2. Grow my relationship with myself. There’s an old phrase which simply says, “Know Thyself”. Most of us have no idea who we really are. Mainly because we all have blind spots. There are certain things about myself I either cannot see or choose not to see. Either way, they are there whether I like it or not. Life Groups are a place where someone else who has ‘buy-in’ can show me these blind spots. Maybe I have untapped potential in a my life but have never noticed it. Someone else can point it out. Maybe I have a anger problem but don’t really want to address it. Someone else who I trust may be able to talk to me where my wife or kids wouldn’t dare.

3. Grow my relationship with God. The best way to get to know God is in the context of a group.  Life Groups should never take the place of your personal daily devotion time. However, in a group you can study out the Word of God and discuss what you find. You can relate a spiritual understand and apply it to real life situations. You can even request godly wisdom from others around you. When you are around other people who are pursuing God, your going to move farther.


Life groups help me grow in my relationships.

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A Letter to RLC, All

Letter to RLC>>>

Howdy RLC!

What an amazing weekend we’ve just had. It was awesome! This next week is going to be even more spectacular as well and I cannot wait to see what’s going happen. here are few things I want to share with you today:

#1. This past Sunday was the RLC One Year Anniversary Celebration. It was great. Thank you to everyone who came out in spite of the snow and icky weather to celebrate. RLC is now 1 year old. It’s amazing to see how far we have come and everything God has done. Can’t wait to see what’s in store this year. For those who were wanting to see it again, here is a link to the one year anniversary celebration video the media team created.

#2. This Sunday is a special day as well for RLC. It’s the first time ever RLC has offered two new worship experience options—> 9:30am and 11am.
Now, you might be thinking “BIG DEAL” but to those who have embraced the vision of RLC IT IS. This is an opportunity to provide those far from God with multiple opportunities to come and hear about a God who loves them. It’s an opportunity for those who’ve wanted to get involved with the church to do so. It’s also an opportunity for the serve teams to worship one/serve one. It’s a great day. Can’t wait till this weekend.

#3. I want to say a HUGE WELCOME to over 19 new dream team members! Way to go guys. It’s so great to serve with you. At Real Life Church, we believe it’s one thing to GO to church and another to BE the church.

#4. We have a house now to make it a home.  There are still opportunities available for those interesting in serving. Where can you make a difference in the lives of others?

  •  Media Team
  • Video editing
  • Worship Band
  • KidsLife

Click here to get more info about any of these serve opportunities.

#5. Found people find people.  This is one of the best times of the year to invite those you know who are far from God. Now with two worship experience options it’s easier than ever.  If you’ve found the love of God in your own life you’ll agree there’s nothing greater than helping someone experience it as well.



Let’s do this.

Have a great week.

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A Letter to RLC

A Letter to RLC>>>

Howdy RLC!

What an amazing weekend! There were ‘wins’ all over the place. Here are a few of them and a little extra…

1. We were honored to have 3 people make a commitment for Christ at RLC yesterday! Thank You Jesus. That never gets old. Remember to pray for those who have made the first step in their relationship with God.

2. We were honored to host 26 people at the Dream Team Luncheon. Almost everyone present said they wanted to join the team and use their gifts to make a difference in the lives of others. Way to go guys!

3. It was such a joy to see all the excitement surrounding the announcement of the new worship experience structure. Starting February 10th there will be a new worship experiences at 9:30 and 11am. More info about all this coming this week.

4. We turn one year old this Sunday! Woo Hoo! Yeah! Come help us celebrate. I’ll be posting on this later this week stay tuned.

5. Heavy Soul. That was the emphasis in the second part of new series Soul Detox. Don’t allow yourself to stay ‘heavy’ in your due to past hurts, current trouble, or future anxiety. Remember God is faithful. Instead remember His faithfulness in the past, cry out to Him in the present, and trust Him for the future.

6. Found people find people.  Once you’ve experienced the presence of God for yourself, you want to share it with others. We’re beginning to see Real Lifer’s all over doing this. As your pastor it fills me with such joy when I see you guys praying with one another, serving one another, growing together, and… well, being the church.

7. Last but certainly not least I want to say congratulations on all those who finished up their 21 day fasting journey this past weekend. I’m so proud of you.

I can’t wait to see what’s just around the next corner.

It’s so great to be a part of RLC!

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Day Twenty-One: Because There’s More

It’s not only about us. We need to be free. We need to be close to Jesus for our own wellbeing, but also for others. Because there’s more … is why we fast and pray.

What are God’s purposes on the earth today? Are people in bondage, desperate for freedom, crying out to a God they don’t even know? Does He desire to use us to break their chains? Yes and yes! The real question is whether you and I will interrupt our lives and our routines to help.

If you read Isaiah 58 carefully, you see that the chapter actually begins with God rebuking the people who were fasting because their form of fasting was merely a mundane outward display to demonstrate their religiosity. God is looking for the real deal!

Men, women and children desperately cry out for help every day, all over the world, perhaps even right down the street. They are abused, oppressed, misused, hungry, alone, forgotten, and crushed. That is why the fast God desires is not an empty, passionless religious act that bears no fruit.

God has a specific purpose for fasting and prayer.

Is this not the fast that I have chosen: To loose the bonds of wickedness, To undo the heavy burdens, To let the oppressed go free, And that you break every yoke? Is it not to share your bread with the hungry, And that you bring to your house the poor who are cast out; When you see the naked, that you cover him, And not hide yourself from your own flesh? Then your light shall dawn in the darkness, And your darkness shall be as the noonday. The Lord will guide you continually, And satisfy your soul in drought, And strengthen your bones; You shall be like a watered garden, And like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail. —ISAIAH 58:6–11

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Day Twenty: The Main Dish

Guest post from Free Chapel:

You’re in the home stretch of this fast and right about now you may be having dreams about hot, fluffy, brown yeast rolls. So, I encourage you to stay strong as we have a conversation about bread.

In ancient times bread was regarded as the main course because it was a main source of nutrition. Long before our TV commercials proclaimed, “Beef: it’s what’s for dinner” the slogan would have been more like, “Bread: it’s what’s for dinner.”

When God delivered the Israelites from slavery in Egypt, they were given specific instructions on what to eat that final night; they were to “be ready,” with no time for dough to rise, so a very important part of the Passover meal was, and continues to be, unleavened bread.

Their wandering in the desert for forty years made it hard, if not impossible, to plant and harvest wheat for bread. So the Lord said to Moses, “Behold, I will rain bread from heaven for you. And the people shall go out and gather a certain quota every day, that I may test them, whether they will walk in My law or not” (Ex. 16:4). They ate that “bread of heaven” daily for the duration of their time in the desert.

As you can see, bread wasn’t a “take it or leave it” side option like today.

Now, thinking about how important bread was in the history of the Israelites, we look at John chapter 6. Jesus’ words in this chapter were pivotal, even for some of His followers who could not accept His claim to be “the Bread of Life.” The chapter begins with Jesus multiplying five small loaves of barley bread and two small fish that a little boy in the crowd was saving for his lunch.

When they followed him the next day and asked for more miracles, He replied,
“Most assuredly, I say to you, Moses did not give you the bread from heaven, but My Father gives you the true bread from heaven. For the bread of God is He who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world.” Then they said to Him, “Lord, give us this bread always.” And Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life. He who comes to Me shall never hunger, and he who believes in Me shall never thirst.”—JOHN 6:32-35

“I am the bread of life.” What a statement! Jesus stated, “I am the bread of life,” in that culture, intending to get their attention. He wanted them to understand, “You need Me every day. You can’t make it without Me. I’m the central issue of your life. Without Me, without bread, you’ll perish.”

I can do without a lot of things, but I cannot do anything without Jesus. He’s not something at the end of the table in a basket that I can take or leave. “Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O Lord God of hosts.” Jeremiah 15:16

Eat to your fill of His presence today!

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Day Nineteen: Someone To Challenge You

Guest Blog Post from Free Chapel:

In 2 Kings 13:14-19, the prophet Elisha was on his death bed. And, Joash, King of Israel, came to him for one last piece of advice because the Syrians were attacking the country. Elisha told him to take a bow and arrows and put his hand on the bow.

These scriptures may not make a lot of sense to you concerning the theme of fasting, but I want to tie them together over the next couple of days in a way that I feel the Lord would have me share with you.

Do you know that everybody needs a man of God in their life? You need someone who won’t just tell you what you want to hear, but someone who will tell you what you need to hear. Someone who won’t just make you feel good, but someone who will also challenge you.

I was thinking about how Elisha had a double portion of the anointing of Elijah. Before he received that, 2 Kings 2 says that Elisha tore his robe into two pieces and took up the mantle of Elijah. Notice he had to take off before he could put on. And we have to rid ourselves of some things before God will send the double portion anointing.

I believe God’s double portion anointing can come on us for complete victory, when we rid ourselves of sins like offense, unforgiveness and pride. On this fast, let’s get rid of some things so we can receive other things from God.

When you take that stuff off, you humble yourself. And James 4:6 says, “God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

Fast for complete victory in your life. Victory is when you completely overcome the enemy. It is the cutting off of Goliath’s head. It is the dancing on the grave of your enemy. It is not co-existing with partial victory. Jesus came “that He might destroy the works of the devil” (1 John 3:8).

Jesus came to bring complete victory.

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Day Eighteen: Living Inside Out

Guest post from Free Chapel

Continue to be open to the conviction of the Holy Spirit during this fast because the only cure for sin is to be cleansed and changed from the inside out. When it comes to the heart of man, what goes in also comes out.

That is why Jesus exposed the Pharisees for their pious religious front. He called them pretenders and hypocrites, saying, “You are like tombs that have been whitewashed, which look beautiful on the outside but inside are full of dead men’s bones and everything impure. Just so, you also outwardly seem to people to be just and upright but inside you are full of pretense and lawlessness and iniquity.”—Matthew 23:27-28

They looked the part. They played the role. They religiously went through the motions. But they spent much more attention creating the outward standard than they spent following the inward standard. What is on the inside will show on the outside. Think about it this way: When someone gets sick and nausea takes hold, that person doesn’t need training on how to make what is on the inside…come out. The body knows how to do that all by itself! When you have junk inside—junk comes out. But in like manner, when you have Jesus inside—Jesus comes out.

I think the longer that we serve the Lord the easier it can be to get caught up in the routine of religion. I have to fight that at times. I feel the pressure to be what I am expected to be outwardly even though I may feel totally drained inside. That is why we have to be careful not to put so much energy into keeping up the outward appearance that before long it’s just that—an exterior whitewashing to cover a withering interior. It is dangerous for a person or a ministry to be growing outwardly but shrinking in passion for Jesus inwardly.

If I sense my passion for Jesus beginning to fade, I fast. I can’t stress enough how fasting helps you regain the edge when you are growing dull. It immediately helps you get refocused on only those things that really matter, and cleanse yourself of the rest. Fasting helps you maintain the inward brokenness that allows God to make your outside match your inside. It’s living “inside out.” You don’t have to fake it on the outside when you are full of the Lord on the inside.

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Day Seventeen: When Should I Fast?

As you are ending your time of fasting you may be thinking when you will do this again?

At Real Life Church, we only fast corporately once a year. However, that doesn’t mean you should only fast then. This spiritual discipline can benefit you greatly as it becomes a new habit for you.

Here is an excerpt from an article I read recently on When We Should Fast:

1. When you are facing a mammoth task that you cannot do by yourself.

Nehemiah fasted while rebuilding the temple.

Examples: moving, launching a new business, starting new career, the adoption of a child

2. When you are facing physical danger.

Esther called a fast when her people faced persecution

Examples: facing surgery, preparing for military duty, performing a dangerous job or task

3. When you are under attack from the enemy.

II Chronicles 20 – King Jehoshaphat called a fast when his enemies surrounded him

Examples: when you face opposition to fulfilling the promises of God for you and your family.

4. When you are appalled at society

Ezra 9, Jonah 3

Examples: widespread abortion, the promotion of the radical homosexual agenda, the spread of immorality through the media

5. When you desire for your church to grow and prosper

Acts 2: 42, 47

6. When you encounter demonic oppression

Mark 9:17- 29

Prayer and fasting will cause Satan to tuck his tail and run!

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