“He must become greater; I must become less.”John 3:30
I don’t know how many leaders you have been around, but just about all that I know have a sincere heart to do good for those they lead. They spend countless hours trying to become better at what they do, thinking about their teams, and worrying over things they cannot do anything about. This leaves too many leaders with the mindset they simply are not good enough to ever become good enough.
Unfortunately, this means they end up feeling like it’s all their fault when their ministry ultimately falls somewhere short of perfection. The reality is they are probably doing much better than they will ever give themselves credit for because they are doing what God has called them to do. However, in a culture where superstar status seems to be required for anyone wishing to make a difference, it is becoming more and more difficult to be an authentic leader. Here are three common mistakes most leaders fall into that steals their peace:
1.Thinking It’s All About You.
I don’t mean this in an arrogant way or implying that the leader has a pride issue. Rather, it is the leader believing they have to make everything happen. I heard a leader make a statement that I have since repeated many times. He said, “If it’s going to be it’s up to me.” I now know that not all statements that rhyme are good to live by. That statement was meant to imply that we should always work hard. However, it quickly took root in a bad way and led me to believe that the only way anything was going to get done was if I did it. My ministry became “me” focused because I thought I had to get it done. Not true. As leaders we must remember that it’s actually not about you. It’s all about Jesus. We do everything we do from within His strength. If you are too tired too often, is it possible that you are operating out of only your strength?
2.Thinking It’s All Up to You.
This sounds just like the last one but it’s a little different spin that causes so many sleepless nights for leaders. It’s the idea that we can only accomplish the work by doing it alone. We don’t include others from some misguided idea that only we can get it done and we have to carry the weight of ministry solo. We all need someone to help carry the load and feeling we have to walk alone is not only unhelpful, it’s dangerous.
3. Thinking They Have to Measure Up to Someone Else’s Assignment.
What a shame it would be to get to Heaven and present God with our great accomplishments only to find out that we wasted our time. How many of us will stand before God and hear Him say, “You did a great job at accomplishing someone else’s assignment.” I never asked you to accomplish their goals. I wanted you to be the best ‘you’ that you could be and do your assignment. Who’s assignment are you trying to accomplish? Is it something God has called you to do or something you see someone else doing?
So, which one of these areas do you struggle with the most right now? What is one step you could take toward freedom and recapturing your peace?