“My theme song is God’s love and justice, and I’m singing it right to you, GOD. I’m finding my way down the road of right living, but how long before you show up? I’m doing the very best I can, and I’m doing it at home, where it counts.”
Psalm 101:1-8 MSG
The very first place leadership matters is with ourselves, hands down. If you cannot lead yourself, you cannot lead others. It’s not really fair but people also look at how you lead yourself to see how you will lead others. We’ll save that for another post.
The other place where leadership matters the most is listed above in today’s Bible verse, the home. John Maxwell once said,
True success is when those who know you best love and respect you the most.
It’s very true. Your legacy is made more at home than anywhere else. It is at home, with the people closest to you that you truly make the greatest difference. However, it’s for that very reason (they are the closest to you) that it can also be the most difficult. They see you in the good times and in the challenging. Therefore, it takes constant work and effort.
Here are a few application ideas to take a step toward making a difference at home.
Be real. Fake is exhausting.
It’s possible to fool some of the people some of the time but impossible to fool all of the people all of the time. This is especially true when it is those closest to you. The see who you really are more than you realize. Trying to hide just makes you dishonest. “Being real” does not mean you celebrate your weaknesses and say, “This is who I am. Get over it.” Rather, it is being honest about your weaknesses and inviting others into the jouney toward freedom. Your honesty will create more teammates than rivals.
People remember what you do over a long time more than one kind gesture. This is a hard lesson to learn and many people learn it a little too late. If you are mostly unkind with occasional moments of kindness, which do you think people will remember? Exactly. Whatever you do, do with consistency.
Be growth minded.
Being real is awesome but no one likes someone who decides to stay where they are. Most people will put up with brokenness for a season but if you are still struggling with the same thing 3 years later, something isn’t working. Have an attitude that says, “I am going to get better. I am going to grow. One small step at a time.”
Prayer- “God help me to remember that the home is the most important place to lead. I will follow you and, by doing so, provide someone for them to follow as well.”